Thinking About Another, by Andy

I heard the Call three years ago and was guided to join the Living Miracles community so as to speed my waking from the dream. At the time I left home my young adult son seemed to be having problems with addictive behavior and I seemed to be in a rescuer role. He was upset at my leaving, and for three years there was almost no communication between us.

I felt guilty about leaving and was sad about the apparent loss of connection, but my commitment to awakening didn’t waver. On the contrary, as I brought my own darkness to the light and let go of false beliefs, I experienced more and more inner peace, freedom and confidence. In my mind I saw his innocence and wished him happiness. Hearing no other guidance, I left the relationship to the Holy Spirit

Then yesterday I received this email:

Dad,

There are many things I’ve been wanting to say to you, but I’ll just keep it brief for now.

I’ve come to realize that I’ve not been authentic with you or myself about your absence. I’ve been pretending that I don’t miss you or that I don’t care that we haven’t been in touch for so long. I’ve also been blaming you for my own unhappiness.

The result of this has been a loss of love and connection between us.

I’m committed now to the possibility for us to be in open, honest and loving communication, and to be in a place where I’m not blaming you or making you wrong, and instead being okay with you; both the way you are, and the way you’re not. In this new space that we create, you will be free to do whatever you want to do with your life, and I will be okay with whatever that is.

Love,

Your Son

Wow! What a blessing! What a miracle! I joyfully wrote him back.

Surely the Holy Spirit is the Healer. As I forgive the world, my relationships reflect this healed perspective.

Forgiveness… is still, and quietly does nothing. It offends no aspect of reality, nor seeks to twist it to appearances it likes. It merely looks, and waits, and judges not. Your Savior… has forgiven you already, for such is His function, given Him by God. Now must you share His function, and forgive whom He has saved, whose sinlessness He sees, and whom He honors as the Son of God. W-pII.1.

It is important to realize that this [change of attitude between two people] can and does occur as readily when the interaction takes place in the mind as when it involves physical proximity. Thinking about another ego is as effective in changing relative perception as is physical interaction. T.4.II:2

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